I've never been one to explode on innocent bystanders or those undeserving of the rebuke I returned. I do however admit to using a harsh tone in circumstances when a harsh tone is not indefinitely required or in fact needed. Also, sarcasm is my greatest friend and a lovely defense mechanism when my walls are built higher than my morals at times.
Though I find myself laying in bed at the moment having just settled a small dispute "soundly", in my mind, and realizing that the other side of the dispute would probably disagree very heavily.
As I review the conversation I realize that my intention, as have been with every argument and conflict I am ever in, is always to flee or sweep.
What do I mean by flee or sweep?
Flee:
Simply put I want to run away from this trouble or situation.
I get the coward instinct to run.
As if the room were on fire or the person I am in conflict with were trying to kill me I simply try to wrap up the argument as quickly as possible, take the blame if necessary, apologize, and get away.
Sweep:
Instead of trying to find resolutions to the issue at hand I simply ignore it.
Sounds like the same thing as flee, right? Well it's not.
Sweep means to ignore the problem.
I know the giant gorilla is sitting in my living room but I choose not to say anything about it. Instead I put on a smile and go about my day like everything is perfectly fine.
I try to sweep that giant gorilla under the rug.
It's my Flee or Sweep theory on solving conflict.
I intend to change the way I go about solving my conflicts. This takes prayer and accountability. I have few followers, I am aware of this, but those of you who do follow me I am counting on you.
Take this challenge with me. Find your conflict solving method and decide if its helping you or if it's harming you. Do you flee or do you sweep? I intend to change. Do you?
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